How to approach a girl
1 01 2010Refining and conditioning are the two most important factors in becomming confident and successful with approaching women.
Its important for newcommers to the seduction game to realise that failure is your friend when you first start to pick up women. Sometimes we develop the mentality when learning something new that we aren’t ready to have a go at it ourselves before we become “experts” (An expert is actively doing what he has learnt), or only once we can assume that everything will go right with the first attempt. It’s this limiting belief and way of thinking that breeds procrastination and wasting opportunities that come our way. We simply cannot wait around for things to happen because they never will unless you go out there and get it. By all means read as much as you want, there’s plenty of invaluable information on how to seduce and attract women, but reading will not do anything for your real world success unless you implement the things you have learnt. The fastest way to learn how to approach a girl is to get out there and practice it, armed with the knowledge on how to do so.
For those who are getting started, and want to know how to pick up a girl without failure… I have news for you; Two big factors in the stages of knowing how to pick up a girl like a seduction guru are refining and conditioning. It’s only once you have got knocked back that you can assess what you did wrong, refine your methods then jump back in the game. It’s like Rocky says “It’s not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up”. something along those lines anyway because let’s be honest… We can only guess what Sly is making out to say most of the time. The big difference here is that if you were to get knocked down physically by a guy it would hurt, causing you actual pain… If on the other hand you get knocked back by a girl then the only thing hurting is your ego, no real damage was done, so stop being a sissy. Once you become conditioned to the knockbacks you will lose the ego and naturally develop a “Take it or leave it” attitude that will tell women you aren’t desperate, and most likely have an abundance of women in your life and that you are someone who doesn’t put women on a pedestal.
Conditioning combined with refining is what makes the BIG difference. If you don’t refine your methods when things don’t go to plan you are bound to repeat your mistake and because you won’t have learnt anything from them you will become frustrated and desperate for results, which puts you in a vicious circle or errors. I’m not saying to over analyse every approach that failed if the majority are a success because you cannot please all of the people, all of the time – and you don’t need to. What you can do though, is put yourself at an advantage by being in the right state of mind to be most likely, to attract most women, most of the time. The way to do this of course is by having relaxed confidence and having a positive energy and an Alpha Male aura about you. Exuding this confidence and aura all begins in the mind and translates through speach and body language – “I think therefore i am”. Think like an Alpha Male and eventually you will become one. So stop the self-doubting, negative talk inside your head and reframe your way of thinking to: “I am a man, (grab your balls if you need to check) I am confident, I am funny, I am attractive” and soon picking up girls will no longer be a daunting task at which you have to nervously coax yourself into, but an enjoyable hobbie with no real reprocussions from failure.
I just want to add here as a last note that self talk should not be an “us vs them” attitude where you feel as if you are going to war whenever you go out there with the intention to meet women. It will reveal itself as false bravado and negative/annoying cockyness.
Until next time
Eros
