Self-Confidence and Finding Love
7 11 2009
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …
A Life Coach for people with self-confidence or self-esteem problems is very helpful in addressing this following question. Women tend to suffer mostly from self-esteem, abandonment and lack of feelings of being worthy problems. Relationship Advice for Women is one way to solve this problem in relationship coaching. Anita asks: “Are some of us just meant to be lonely forever”? Anita, considering the fact that you responded to the survey concerning relationships and the Law of Attraction, I’m going to assume you have been thinking about creating love for yourself. There are many who decide to stay out of serious relationships. And that need not be the case for a person who’s given up after they have continuously been unsuccessful. Nothing at all is wrong with wanting to be without an intimate relationship. Life can be fulfilled and wonderful with any decision you make.
As long as you know you are choosing that instead of throwing up your hands out of frustration that you have not found the love of a lifetime. You can have everything in a relationship and in your life.
If you could view yourself from the point of view of Source or your Inner Being, or Higher Self, you’d see a wonderful, magnificent, illuminated, connected entity. Then life begins to happen around us. Our well-meaning parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to teach us, tell us from the beginning what to look out for, warn us, caution us, and attempt to shelter us, effectively having us adhere to their fears and projections of insecurity rather than tuning in to our personal energy. OK, I will grant you as brand new creatures we do require protection. Fine. But shortly after they learn to do things by themselves, self-actualization needs to be part of the training for the small ones.
Well-meaning parents want to do the correct thing so they guide, caution, admonish, and scare young ones to make them behave. This only creates an underlying insecurity and inability. The sensation of not-enoughness gets embedded as a child.
Neurological research now tells us that until the age of 7, we’re so open and receptive, we have no filtering abilities at all. We go around in a kind of hypnagogic trance and become impressed with whatever happens to enter our life experience. It is no wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misplaced, thoughts about an imperfect nature. By the time we’re 6 years old, we have heard the word “NO” about 60,000 times. Watch out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, do not drop that. The subliminal message is you’re unworthy, you can’t believe in yourself, you don’t know what you’re doing, and so on.
Our parents and elders were indeed well-meaning. They simply wanted our well-being. But you can see how simply we’ve been trained away from our innate greatness and brilliance.
I recommend that you go easy on yourself and give yourself a break. Firstly, it’s not your fault. It’s not even the fault of your elders. They were programmed the same way as well. You can stop this perpetration of lower sense of self-worth on yourself and everyone you know. You deserve to have anything you desires.
Do your very best to lavish yourself appreciation and self-acceptance. Adhere to yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The reality is, the Universe appreciates, Spirit adores you, and your Inner Being loves you. Why? Because you ARE perfect. And that IS the truth!
