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It should be pretty obvious that the only way you are going to get to know a girl is to sit down with her and ask her questions. I’ve seen lots of lists of dumb “date questions” for you to ask like “If you could have one super power, what would it be?” but these just come off as forced routines that don’t really bring the two of you closer together. These will only hurt your chances with the woman.

You shouldn’t devote your efforts to these stupid questions. Try just having a real conversation with the woman instead. These sorts of questions are just a crutch that men use to help ease the jitters that they get when they are eager to impress a girl. Ultimately, these corny routines will only keep you from having a good connection with a girl. Try to stop approaching the situation by thinking so much and try to be more in the moment when you’re with her. Notice how she reacts and behaves toward things that happen and actually start to care about her experience and feels and you’ll never run out of things to talk about.

Lot of men fall into the trap of asking too many “yes/no” type questions.If you do this, stop it. This is creepy and it comes across as if you are interrogating her.

Are you from around here? – Yep.

Do you have a job in town? – Yep.

Do you like cats? – No.

Is this conversation getting under your skin? – Yep.

Instead, ask questions that require an explanation and make her put some of herself out there.

Which part of town do you like the most? – Definitely the XYZ District. I just moved there, in fact.

Really?  What’s the best thing about that neighborhood? – These’s just so much history in that place!  It never gets boring. yadda yadda yadda.

You’re probably getting it.

Ask the girl things about her life. Get to know her better and understand how she sees the world. Start to drill down deeper into her emotions by asking the woman questions like “What did that make you feel?” and “What was it like when XXX happened?”  Watch how she acts when she describe things and drill down on those too.  Ask her things like “You seemed a little worried when you told me about your job. Would you tell me more about that?”  You might even help the girl uncover things about herself that she didn’t even know.

After you do this a little bit, it may begin to feel that the two of you are completely separated from the rest of the world in your own private bubble.You can be in the noisiest club out there, but it will seem like you have her all to yourself.

Don’t you think that this is a huge improvement from “What’s your favorite type of jelly bean?”.

So, please leave the lame questions to those online surveys your friends send you. Just bring yourself fully to the interaction and allow whatever happens to happen. Ask questions to the girl and start to really get an understanding about her life. So feel free to ask anything that you want, so long as you are truthfully interested in the answer.

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