The Magic Of Making Up – How Do I Get Back Along With My Ex Fiance?

5 09 2009

This is the question my husband’s bro asked me the other day. Why did you break up was my reply when really what I needed to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her?  It’s as if it was taken straight from the Magic Of Making Up book.

He looked a bit sheepish and told me that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Seemingly she’s young, really pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a he-man type, decided that he had to dump his lovely squeeze to date this beach honey. Needless to say, he shortly discovered that she had been smiling at his friend and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.  

Well he merited that but I think he had ditched his squeeze for a less apparent reason. He loves her and was scared of making a commitment to her. He had started thinking about settling down and having youngsters and no-one had made him feel like this before. But he was worried that being a vocation girl, this was not the future she had planned.  

Unfortunately he isn’t very good at expressing his feelings so decided that it was better to complete the relationship instead of try to find out if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!  

Honestly, how can somebody so clever on a pro level be so emotionally backward. Anyhow his ex partner is a nice woman who, God love her, loves him so I knew that getting back with his ex squeeze was possible. It was also a good idea as despite his apparent faults, they make a great couple and he does love her.  

So after reading the Magic Of Making Up, I told him to write her a letter. He made a decision an email would do but I insisted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such an old fashioned way of courting somebody that it always guarantees a positive reply. So off he went to buy some paper and a pen and as I assumed complete the task to hand.  

And then he was back. “But what does one write?” He inquired. Seriously he’d have let me write all of it for him. So I told him to tell her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he is taking a look at me like I suggested him to tug out his finger nails. I claimed let her know you love her and that you are awfully sorry for the way you behaved and you would like to take her out this Fri. to her favourite restaurant.  

Trust me that this approach from the Magic Of Making Up works miles better than a text, a bunch of roses and a takeout. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my brother in law is no longer asking “how to get back together with my ex-girlfriend”.  

His new question is what to claim to his future father in law when he pops the question but I’m going to leave my hubby to cope with that one!

Further reading: Magic Of Making Up





The Magic Of Making Up – How Do I Get Back Together With My Ex Fiance?

4 09 2009

This is the question my husband’s brother asked me the other day. Why did you break up was my response when really what I wanted to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her?  It’s as if it was taken straight from the Magic Of Making Up book.

He looked a bit sheepish and informed me that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Plausibly she is young, very pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a he-man type, decided that he had to dump his beautiful fiance to date this beach honey. Of course, he soon found out that she had been smiling at his pal and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.  

Well he merited that but I believe he had ditched his squeeze for a less plain reason. He adores her and was scared of making a commitment to her. He had started thinking about settling down and having youngsters and nobody had made him feel like that before. But he was concerned that being a career girl, this wasn’t the future she had planned.  

Sadly he is not excellent at expressing his feelings so decided that it was better to finish the relationship instead of try to discover if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!  

Truthfully, how can someone so intelligent on a pro level be so emotionally backward. Anyway his ex partner is a nice woman who, God love her, adores him so I knew that getting back with his ex fiance was possible. It was also a good idea as despite his apparent faults, they make a great couple and he does love her.  

So after reading the Magic Of Making Up, I advised him to draft her a letter. He made a decision an email would do but I asserted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such a traditional way of courting someone that it almost always guarantees a positive reply. So off he went to buy some paper and a pen and as I presumed complete the task at hand .  

And then he got back. “But what does one write?” He asked. Seriously he’d have let me write the entire thing for him. So I told him to inform her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he’s taking a look at me like I advised him to tug out his finger nails. I announced tell her you like her and that you are extremely sorry for the way you behaved and that you would like to take her out this Fri. to her favorite eaterie.  

Listen to me this approach from the Magic Of Making Up works miles better than a text, a bunch of roses and a takeaway. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my bro in law is not asking “how to get together again with my ex-girlfriend”.  

His new question is what to claim to his future pop in law when he pops the question but I’m going to leave my hubby to cope with that one!

Further reading: Magic Of Making Up





Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back Successfully

29 08 2009

Most people find themselves asking “What can I do to getting your ex girlfriend back ” following a breakup. They begin to start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. They even begin to make plans about apology letters and other things that might be able to help them score their relationship back.

This tends to be a dead end for one reason above all else: Because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind a breakup. Women become emotional and sometimes they do not even know what led to the break up at hand and they may not know what is making them feel the way they do. In many circumstances it is only harmful to lose all your energy trying to figure out what went wrong.

The first main strategy to learn “in getting your ex girlfriend back” is to forget about the relationship for a while, putting your energy into something else. Go out, make friends, have fun, network, and forget about women in general. Set some realistic goals about expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people.

Give yourself a couple of months and make changes in your life. Take some time away from your ex and it will work wonders.

The outcome that strategies like this will deliver, is that it will allow you to form gradually changes in your life. And in how you perceive the matter of relationships. After a few weeks, you might have a much more discriminatory estimation of how you would like to proceed with your ex.

Do you still want to get back together with her? Or are you ready to move on? Act accordingly. If you still want to get back together with her, it might be time to figure out how she is feeling about you.

At once is your opportunity to be a little more direct when it pertains getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to act strategically, however. Do not merely implore her to get back with you, for this is not a good time to be emotional.

Rather, what you had better be doing is playing things cool with your ex. If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you equally poor as you are missing her. Play hard to get a little (do not over do it) and display to her that you are doing okay without her. This will inspire her to truly reconsider matters.

And if getting back together with your ex really is meant to be, now is the time when it will become apparent. Be careful not to analyze things too much, because over analyzing may prevent you from acting the right way when trying to figure out the process in “getting your ex girlfriend back”. Just take things slow and play them cool and you should be fine.

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