The Magic Of Making Up – How Do I Get Back Along With My Ex Fiance?
5 09 2009This is the question my husband’s bro asked me the other day. Why did you break up was my reply when really what I needed to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her? It’s as if it was taken straight from the Magic Of Making Up book.
He looked a bit sheepish and told me that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Seemingly she’s young, really pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a he-man type, decided that he had to dump his lovely squeeze to date this beach honey. Needless to say, he shortly discovered that she had been smiling at his friend and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.
Well he merited that but I think he had ditched his squeeze for a less apparent reason. He loves her and was scared of making a commitment to her. He had started thinking about settling down and having youngsters and no-one had made him feel like this before. But he was worried that being a vocation girl, this was not the future she had planned.
Unfortunately he isn’t very good at expressing his feelings so decided that it was better to complete the relationship instead of try to find out if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!
Honestly, how can somebody so clever on a pro level be so emotionally backward. Anyhow his ex partner is a nice woman who, God love her, loves him so I knew that getting back with his ex squeeze was possible. It was also a good idea as despite his apparent faults, they make a great couple and he does love her.
So after reading the Magic Of Making Up, I told him to write her a letter. He made a decision an email would do but I insisted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such an old fashioned way of courting somebody that it always guarantees a positive reply. So off he went to buy some paper and a pen and as I assumed complete the task to hand.
And then he was back. “But what does one write?” He inquired. Seriously he’d have let me write all of it for him. So I told him to tell her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he is taking a look at me like I suggested him to tug out his finger nails. I claimed let her know you love her and that you are awfully sorry for the way you behaved and you would like to take her out this Fri. to her favourite restaurant.
Trust me that this approach from the Magic Of Making Up works miles better than a text, a bunch of roses and a takeout. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my brother in law is no longer asking “how to get back together with my ex-girlfriend”.
His new question is what to claim to his future father in law when he pops the question but I’m going to leave my hubby to cope with that one!
Further reading: Magic Of Making Up
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