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Refining and conditioning are the two most important factors in becomming confident and successful with approaching women.

Its important for newcommers to the seduction game to realise that failure is your friend when you first start to pick up women. Sometimes we develop the mentality when learning something new that we aren’t ready to have a go at it ourselves before we become “experts” (An expert is actively doing what he has learnt), or only once we can assume that everything will go right with the first attempt. It’s this limiting belief and way of thinking that breeds procrastination and wasting opportunities that come our way. We simply cannot wait around for things to happen because they never will unless you go out there and get it. By all means read as much as you want, there’s plenty of invaluable information on how to seduce and attract women, but reading will not do anything for your real world success unless you implement the things you have learnt. The fastest way to learn how to approach a girl is to get out there and practice it, armed with the knowledge on how to do so.

For those who are getting started, and want to know how to pick up a girl without failure… I have news for you; Two big factors in the stages of knowing how to pick up a girl like a seduction guru are refining and conditioning. It’s only once you have got knocked back that you can  assess what you did wrong, refine your methods then jump back in the game. It’s like Rocky says “It’s not how many times you get knocked down, but how many times you get back up”. something along those lines anyway because let’s be honest… We can only guess what Sly is making out to say most of the time. The big difference here is that if you were to get knocked down physically by a guy it would hurt, causing you actual pain… If on the other hand you get knocked back by a girl then the only thing hurting is your ego, no real damage was done, so stop being a sissy. Once you become conditioned to the knockbacks you will lose the ego and naturally develop a “Take it or leave it” attitude that will tell women you aren’t desperate, and most likely have an abundance of women in your life and that you are someone who doesn’t put women on a pedestal.

Conditioning combined with refining is what makes the BIG difference. If you don’t refine your methods when things don’t go to plan you are bound to repeat your mistake and because you won’t have learnt anything from them you will become frustrated and desperate for results, which puts you in a vicious circle or errors. I’m not saying to over analyse every approach that failed if the majority are a success because you cannot please all of the people, all of the time – and you don’t need to. What you can do though, is put yourself at an advantage by being in the right state of mind to be most likely, to attract most women, most of the time. The way to do this of course is by having relaxed confidence and having a positive energy and an Alpha Male aura about you. Exuding this confidence and aura all begins in the mind and translates through speach and body language – “I think therefore i am”. Think like an Alpha Male and eventually you will become one. So stop the self-doubting, negative talk inside your head and reframe your way of thinking to: “I am a man, (grab your balls if you need to check) I am confident, I am funny, I am attractive” and soon picking up girls will no longer be a daunting task at which you have to nervously coax yourself into, but an enjoyable hobbie with no real reprocussions from failure.

I just want to add here as a last note that self talk should not be an “us vs them” attitude where you feel as if you are going to war whenever you go out there with the intention to meet women. It will reveal itself as false bravado and negative/annoying cockyness.

Until next time

Eros

It’s known that women are approached a LOT by men, not to say that they are men with any game but that’s besides the point. It’s because we know that there’s competition out there we naturally tend to go for women we think we may atleast stand some chance with. It’s because of this that we decide that we should stay where we are most comfortable and that hot women are “out of our league” or that competition is far too stiff. In our minds we convince ourselves that beautiful women only date very wealthy men who happen to look like Brad Pitt. I’m going to tell you now that you do not need to be James Bond to get with these stunners, although you could learn a lesson or two from him on the ATTITUDE and Alpha Male traits required to be with them.

The truth of the matter is that the most beautiful women, the 10′s, the ones who you admire from a distance… These women are amongst the most lonely women out there. Know why? Because nobody has the balls to go up and speak to her as if she was a human being! Imagine that… There stands a sexy woman who any guy would love to have by his side, and guys actually will avoid talking to her because of an irrational fear of rejection! You’d be more than suprised at the results you would get with hot women if you were to just relax and let your natural charisma flow. It’s unfortunate that the guys who do have the testicular fortitude to talk to these women speak to them as if the slightest word that could be percieved as cocky or offensive is going to wreck their chances. So they speak to them as polite as possible, and compliment them continuously and make it obvious that they are there to serve to them. These hopeful guys validate themselves to the women by spewing anything and everything they have going for them and divulging every last detail about themselves leaving no room for mystery or intrigue, instead they compensate for their own percieved lack of value in comparison to her by placating to her whims, schedule and time; “Call me when YOU’RE avaiable”, “When are YOU free”, “When can I BUY YOU dinner”. Not only is all of this translating to the woman that you are creepy, have low value (and probably no life) but also that you are BORING.

Knowing how to talk to girls with relaxed confidence and not being afraid to share some humour with her like you would your friends and adopting the traits of an alpha male (by actually BEING an alpha male) you will be able to have these women hooked.

Hot women are secretly yearning for a man, an alpha male to look after them and enjoy their time with. If you know how to pick up a girl, you know how to pick up hot beautiful women – no special treatment necessary.

Until next time

Eros

For some guys, they find it hard to approach a woman who sparks interest in them, especially if the particular woman is not part of his circle of acquaintances. So what do you do? Without the benefit of social connections, you’re going to have to learn how to approach a woman. You might view this as a big problem and end up getting discouraged, but the fact is, approaching a woman isn’t as difficult as it may seem. Most girls are susceptible of being approached, and with the right tactic, you might even be able to score a few points with the girl you’re eyeing. Browse through the article and be aware of the different styles to approach a woman.

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Eye Contact
The first thing you should realize is that an eye contact is enough to signify an approach.You have to stimulate awareness of each other by establishing communication through the eyes. Once you have done that, the way she looks back will give you the signal to approach or track back. Once you’ve captured her eyes with your own, it’s time to use your mouth and smile. If she smiles back, then that’s basically your signal for the next level.

Get Closer
If the girl responds positively with a smile or a nod, then it’s time to move closer. Sidle in the seat across or beside her and start with a “Hi”. If you want to take it slow, then you can just sidle in and pretend to read a book or something. You can start the conversation with a question; perhaps if she’s reading a book then you might open up by asking if the book is good. Think up an excuse and make sure it’s a good one.  You can introduce yourself once she responds to your overture.

No Pick-Up Lines
Pick up lines are lame and if you want to learn how to approach a woman, then you might want to trash the whole pick-up line routine. Women have probably heard all of them and are not fond of it.Instead, wring out a situational comment and proceed from there.

Don’t Get Drunk
Some men try to increase their confidence before trying to instigate an approach.Don’t make this mistake. Be stone cold sober when you approach a woman, otherwise you will be automatically shot down even before you utter the first word.

Befriend Her Friends

Women usually go out in groups, and if you start approaching one without acknowledging the people she’s with, then you’re most likely to be disregarded. If you’re going to be friendly to their friends, chances are they will appreciate that overture and welcome you more.

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Stop Being Goal Oriented
When initiating contact with a woman, some guys think that the main goal is to get her phone number. This goal usually results to a fast paced approach that turns off women. If you approach the female you like, then focus more on talking to each other, finding common ground and perhaps reciting a joke or two. You have to let the fascination build. If you automatically ask for her phone number, she will reluctantly give you her number and promptly ignore your calls. However, if you manage to have her interested, then she will not only give you her phone number but would even entertain your further communication attempts.