Child discipline is used by parents to teach children the difference between right and wrong. Looking back at their own experience of growing up, parents want to make sure their children avoid the mistakes that they made. Parents use child discipline to help their children not to make mistakes that they will look back on as adults and regret. Read the rest of this entry »
Trying to get advice about how to deal with child behavior problems can be very confusing because people have conflicting opinions as to what is the best method to use.Some people have old-fashioned notions about dealing with child behavior problems, and they believe that yelling or spanking are acceptable methods. Research studies have proved that this form of child discipline can be harmful to a child and so is discouraged. Children who have experienced their parents frequently yelling at them learn that it is okay for them to solve problems by raising their voice. So if yelling and spanking are ineffective ways of dealing with child behavior problems what options are available to parents?
There are other effective ways to deal with child behavior problems. if you have a very young child you can say “no” firmly, and that is often enough for them to learn that you do not approve of that particular behavior.. in the cases that just saying “no” is not a sufficient deterrent, then the next stage is to take the child physically away from that inappropriate activity. Other effective ways of dealing with unacceptable child behavior with a child who is very young are using timeout or removing your attention from the child. This involves removing the child to a boring area of the house and ignoring him or her until they have calmed down. You can use this technique particularly efficiently with the child who is having a temper tantrum.
With slightly older children, you are able to use the logic of rewards and consequences and they are able to understand how this operates. Therefore you can deal with child behavior problems by withholding rewards and stopping privileges. for instance, if your child refuses to eat their meal do not force them to do so. Instead remove the meal, and when they asked for a snack suggest that they eat their meal first and then they would be able to have a snack. At the same time remember to always give rewards for behavior that does meet your approval.
If you are in need of help and would like to learn more about how to handle child behavior problems you can find helpful articles on the Internet. Parents can find e-books all about dealing with child behavior problems that are available for purchase as well as other programs that teach you very effective strategies to help you with your child’s behavior problems.
Does your child understand about child discipline? Does your kid know the difference between being punished and being disciplined?
What is the difference between ‘discipline’ and ‘spanking or punishment?’ When you discipline a child, you are guiding them toward an understanding of appropriate behavior.
On the other hand, punishment – hitting, spanking, or controlling behaviors in response to your child’s actions – does not teach self-control OR appropriate behavior.
You may wonder why your child needs to understand discipline when you are the one that will participate in the activity. The reason your child needs to understand is that they are really not just the ‘recipient’ of your discipline, but they are a ‘participant’ in the process.
Think about it this way: You can talk to them until you are blue in the face, but if they do not respond, they are not participating and when they don’t participate, they usually just continue the behavior you are trying to stop.
SO, if you are going to teach your child to be an active participant in the discipline process, you must first teach them what child discipline is and how they are expected to work with you to achieve your desired outcome.
Let’s look at how you can introduce your child to the idea of guidelines, rules and discipline.
For your child to understand the concept of discipline, they must understand the following:
Some behavior is unacceptable because it can be dangerous, rude or inappropriate at the time.
Everyone has to obey some rules. It isn’t just your child who is restricted.
If we are to live together peacefully, each of us is responsible for our actions and we must be sure that the things we do are not harmful or unfair to others.
In exchange we expect that others will treat us with the same respect.
Respect means we listen to and care about what others want and need.
Some rules are always in place, some are only in place under certain circumstances, and some can be broken if there is a real reason to do so. Help your child understand the guidelines and when flexibility is allowed.
Rules of behavior include:
• How your child plays with others and how they treat others, including you.
• Picking up their own toys and cleaning up a mess they’ve made.
• Eating, napping, and going to bed on time, doing homework, obeying safety rules.
• Sharing and listening to others.
• Being quiet and sitting still when it is appropriate.
• Eating and behaving at the table during meals
• Not interrupting when others are talking
• Not talking back – listen when someone is talking to you.
• Not getting angry, throwing a temper tantrum or hitting, biting, etc.
You can probably think of more!
Especially if you have a young child, don’t try to teach every rule at once. Don’t try to break all bad behaviors at the same time.
Child discipline is a process, and needs to be an integral part of the home life style when raising your kids. Helping your children understand this process will help the journey of parenting become less stormy.
